Thursday, September 23, 2010


This is a question that has been with me for some time. Fate. How far does it rule our lives?

Me, I think Fate plays a huge role in things since I believe that God has a plan with my life. It's just that I sometimes have to make decisions that might or might not be dependent on Fate.

For example. Last night I met an awesome guy... and I think he liked me too, yet we just were never alone for long enough to exchange numbers. We can, however, ask our mutual friend for the other's number, but to me it's not that easy.

I'm right at the end of the year. After that I'm going to leave University and very possibly the country. For me, actively seeking a relationship is just a bit too complex to even think about. Part of me believes that if we are meant to be together or even date, we'll meet again.

Part of me wonders if I'm being a coward.

But that got me thinking about my books. In the Beast, the characters are quite fixed to their fates, although they get to choose if they step up or not. In the Western, they are responsible for their own fates.

Clearly, part of me obviously believes that even if Fate is there, it's my choice to accept it. And thinking about it, I do accept a lot of what Fate throws my way. It's my of knowing whether or not I'm following the Plan. I like following the Plan. It's the best one there is for my life. 

But this was such a near miss. I have no idea about whether the door closed or not. So... Do I shove it a little and see what happens, or do I move past it and go on with my life? What do you guys think?  


  1. This is a very tough call Misha. I say go with your gut.

    About 6 years ago I was getting ready to attend college in the fall and got a job in town before I moved states to earn some extra money. I worked with a guy and we really hit it off, we talked about moving together to another state so I could study and he could find a job. He ended up having family troubles so I stayed behind with him, I wanted to take a chance, my parents disagreed, but this October, on the 6th I'll be married to this man for 3 years. It was worth taking a different route.

    Are you willing to give up the plan for the chance that this guy could be the one? I didn't hestitate, that's how I knew it was right.

    Good luck!

  2. Hmm, got an error response on my first comment, so to sum of the worst things for me is wondering "what if" - fate might have plans for me but I try to minimize anything that might leave me wondering for the rest of my life :)

  3. Not to be funny, but you two just made everything a lot more obvious for me.

    I know that I can't walk away from the plan, as vague as it may be at this stage.

    And if I were to walk away from the plan, I WILL spend my life wondering... What if I did go?

    One day when I'm old, I want to think back and remember all the adventures I had. Will this guy even make a blip on my memory? Who knows?

    I'll have to see how the next few days pan out...

  4. I'd say remember you made a plan for a reason. You set yourself goals to achieve and time spans. There are many possible paths one can take in life, shiny jewels always distract the eye. Don't rush headlong up a different path until you are sure the one on the map isn't worth all your effort. Blimey, that was hard!

  5. I knew as I wrote this post that it might be a bit more tricky, but you all gave me such great advice. :-)

    It's so true. There's always a million thing that I want to do so it is easy for me to feel lost.

    I think I'm going to take a wait and see approach on this one...

    Thanks lots :-)


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