The topic of friendship has challenged me over and over throughout my life. So what does every writer do when they are challenged by a topic? Explore it through their characters.
While writing you can rewrite a scene to get it right, but in real life we only get one go at each scene, each moment, each conversation.
I am continually checking myself on how I treat friends. I don’t call enough, I don’t email, snail mail, communicate enough. I rely too heavily on social media. When I meet someone new, do I lean in and get to know who they are under the surface? How do I celebrate the friends who are in my life now? Could I celebrate them and honour them more?
One reason I stopped phoning people was because it became too hard while my kids were little, now I find my youngest is six and can cope with me closing a door while on the phone but I’m out of the habit. I home school so going out with a friend mid week just never really happens because I have my kids with me nearly twenty-four-seven. At times I avoid going out at night because that’s my writing time. Sometimes it seems like a casual meet up at the park of surface chatter is as good as it gets.
I see a new season coming. After spending nearly fourteen years breading, growing, educating and celebrating our delightful kiddies, I’m coming to a new stage of life. I’m ready to take friendships back and invest into them like I once did. But if for some reason that season doesn’t come quick enough, I’ll continue to explore friendship through my characters.
Where are you in the friendship cycle?
Friendship is one of the main themes in my YA Contemporary Spiralling books. In Spiralling Out of Control, Stephanie moves away from her best friend but continues to lean on her for support. In book two, Spiralling Out of the Shadow, we see the parallel story of Stephanie’s best friend, Tabbie and what it was like for her to be so loyal and relied up so heavily.
Set for paperback release July 19th
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Thanks for visiting, Michelle! Anyone else want to do a guest post? Please click here for more info. In particular, I please please please need someone who'd like to post on Monday, 11 August?
Thanks! How was your weekend? Mine was a bit rough, but more on that tomorrow. ;-)
It is easy to get caught up in our own lives and lose contact with others. But like any habit, we can relearn it.ReplyDelete
Sorry you had a rough weekend, Misha.
This is so true Alex. Thanks for taking the time to read and leave a comment :DDelete
I have a lot of friends, but few I hang out with regularly. I think I'm allergic to phone conversations though.ReplyDelete
If you don't get any takers for August 11th, I'll help out, Misha!
Yes Loni... that's how I've been feeling for the last few years... like it's an allergy towards being on the phone! Thanks for stopping by. xxDelete
I used to find time to write (snail mail) to faraway friends, but that has shamefully dropped by the wayside. I blame the convenience of email, which turns into procrastination (because, hey, I can drop a few line any time I want) which turns into neglect.ReplyDelete
Misha, sorry to hear you're still having a rough time :(
Botanist, I remember writing pages and pages to friends to fill in the gaps of what we didn't talk about on the phone! how times change. thanks for commenting. :DDelete
The books sound great. Friendship is an important theme. I am in about the same place as you are in my "friendship cycle." It's crazy how things can change and revolve throughout life! Thanks for sharing!ReplyDelete
Thanks for reading and commenting Leigh. xxDelete
This book sounds wonderful, I love the theme of friendship. I understand how friendships can be put on the back burner during the time of raising young children, and how that can be painful. Now that mine are older I am also spending more time with old and new friends and it is very rewarding.ReplyDelete
Seasons of life hey Catherine? yours sounds wonderful :D xxDelete
With some friends, you can simply pick up where you left off. But sadly, not always :(ReplyDelete
That is so true Terry and I for one am so thankful for those who are the same yesterday today and tomorrow. :DDelete
Thanks for hosting me on your blog Misha - such a privilege to hang out here this week. xxReplyDelete