tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post7947338402418702274..comments2024-02-12T15:15:51.364+02:00Comments on The Five Year Project: Tell Me When Blog Hop: I was stalked. (And ten things to do if you are)Misha Gerrickhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06364173848456424521noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-34019078676385143792014-01-17T04:14:37.694+02:002014-01-17T04:14:37.694+02:00Sharing your experience has probably helped a lot ...Sharing your experience has probably helped a lot of people. When it comes to your own safety, you are your best protector and it's better to feel foolish that you may have overreacted than regret not reacting strongly enough.<br /><br />I've never been stalked - thank God. But I've recognized what I suspected might be early warning signs of an obsessive person and tossed cold water on the situation before it could heat up. Maybe I overreacted and lost a potential friendship, but that was the better risk, IMO. (I also once hid in a bush because I thought someone was following me when I was walking home one night. I felt so foolish, until I realized he had been following me because after he rounded the corner behind me and looked in every direction without seeing where I went and turned around and went back the way he had come from.)<br /><br />Trust your instincts always, Better to be safe than sorry!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05515397829167775263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-5776283232282671472014-01-16T00:28:46.559+02:002014-01-16T00:28:46.559+02:00I meant to comment on this post earlier. I too had...I meant to comment on this post earlier. I too had a stalker, for years (some of it unknown to me). It's a weird feeling, leaving you looking over your shoulder for awhile. Not fun. Thanks for writing so courageously and bringing attention to a potentially scary and isolating experience. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00741349796538313075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-50310677246614667862014-01-16T00:15:11.978+02:002014-01-16T00:15:11.978+02:00I think you are so brave for sharing your experien...I think you are so brave for sharing your experience. I am just sorry this had to happen to you and is still happening to people all around the world. It is just not fair! I hope he is far away, like prison and that you can have peace of mind again. Wishing you all the best. Murees Dupèhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11781339206465690961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-54037015691329676032014-01-15T22:16:24.349+02:002014-01-15T22:16:24.349+02:00How terrifying...such great advice to share...How terrifying...such great advice to share...Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01294308714313220666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-82475139662776464822014-01-15T18:53:18.210+02:002014-01-15T18:53:18.210+02:00Misha,
That was a chilling story. I'm glad it...Misha, <br />That was a chilling story. I'm glad it turned out okay for you too. <br />Good tips too. It's easy for people to think you're overreacting when going through something like this. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00081704224923965102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-43955445437194595552014-01-15T18:21:35.619+02:002014-01-15T18:21:35.619+02:00Oh god, I'm so, so sorry. What a horrible thin...Oh god, I'm so, so sorry. What a horrible thing to have to deal with, and live through. THANK YOU for sharing your story and spreading the word. It's so important.Liz Blockerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16160510626027597666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-81783897671959293742014-01-14T21:14:09.471+02:002014-01-14T21:14:09.471+02:00That is scary! I had a strange guy try that on th...That is scary! I had a strange guy try that on the internet, but I ignored him. It took over a year for him to finally go away. These are all really helpful tips for staying safe! Thank you for sharing your story and your thoughts.Sherry Ellishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07844837212122243321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-80863105823584718382014-01-14T10:37:18.984+02:002014-01-14T10:37:18.984+02:00Wow!
I would add one more thing to ensure safety,...Wow! <br />I would add one more thing to ensure safety, get a photograph of the perpetrator and show it to the police, friends and family members so that if he does show up they will recognize him and the danger. <br />Glad you came through that safely.<br />Blessings, Geoff.Geoff Maritzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15182608110318394094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-45177365492655849722014-01-14T03:17:13.251+02:002014-01-14T03:17:13.251+02:00Sorry you had to have that experience. I'm gla...Sorry you had to have that experience. I'm glad you got through safely. Thanks for the tips. They'll go a long way towards making people safe. <br />S.P. Bowershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09746614009206426805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-36679972103995134222014-01-14T02:50:46.374+02:002014-01-14T02:50:46.374+02:00What a frightening experience! Glad you're saf...What a frightening experience! Glad you're safely on the other side of it now, and thanks for sharing the tips.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10680066584646789184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-9404794607896834682014-01-13T22:15:55.809+02:002014-01-13T22:15:55.809+02:00First, I want to say that I am so happy that this ...First, I want to say that I am so happy that this guy didn't hurt you. It sounds like you did your best with what you knew at the time.<br /><br />Second, I want to say that even though this was terrible (and it was terrible!!!), you survived it to tell your story. You never know when your story will save someone's life. So, thank you for getting this out there.<br /><br />Third, I want to add for people who are in relationships (or marriages) to people who are anything like this... get out. My ex-husband and I were fighting about something stupid, but he was the kind of person to blow everything up. He called me from work one morning, while I was trying to get ready for work, and just wanted to argue. I didn't have time for that crap. I tried to talk to him the night before and he wasn't having it. So, I told him to quit calling me b.c. I had to get ready for work. He wouldn't. So, I hung up on him. He called back and I let it go to the machine. He yelled into the machine that I better pick up. If I didn't pick up he knew where I was and I couldn't leave the house faster than he could get to me. Scared the crap out of me. I just quit getting ready. I didn't dry my hair, put on make-up. Nothing. I grabbed my purse and left. When people tell you that they can and will hurt you.... listen to them. Just because they "love" you in their twisted way doesn't mean they won't hurt you. Being married is not a protection. It is a shield. For them.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14932408372240147454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-57198402689505147992014-01-13T18:55:32.153+02:002014-01-13T18:55:32.153+02:00Misha, I'm so sorry that you had to go through...Misha, I'm so sorry that you had to go through all that. I'm glad that you shared your story. This is a subject that needs to be brought to light.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-91178671000165278142014-01-13T17:24:46.455+02:002014-01-13T17:24:46.455+02:00Misha, thanks for sharing your story. I've sha...Misha, thanks for sharing your story. I've shared a few of my unsavory encounters over on Swagger Writers. Made me a much more cautious person, as you've said your stalking encounter made you. You were smart/lucky to get away from him so soon.Kim Van Sicklerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04957877837203134260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-25374516239222892172014-01-13T17:22:09.642+02:002014-01-13T17:22:09.642+02:00Perfect use of that money! Love it!
Perfect use of that money! Love it!<br />Kim Van Sicklerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04957877837203134260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-80423410270236315372014-01-13T16:26:26.801+02:002014-01-13T16:26:26.801+02:00Wow, you should've reported him. I had a stalk...Wow, you should've reported him. I had a stalker when I worked as a waitress. When he left a Christmas card with a $100 in it, I took it to the police. (We used that $100 to get my first cell phone and some pepper mace.)L. Diane Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06425864276166334896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-40265728646292861242014-01-13T15:39:17.547+02:002014-01-13T15:39:17.547+02:00That is just creepy. He was one unstable dude. Sor...That is just creepy. He was one unstable dude. Sorry you had to endure that.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-63507499393921663002014-01-13T15:21:08.635+02:002014-01-13T15:21:08.635+02:00So glad it ended up working out for you. But looki...So glad it ended up working out for you. But looking over your shoulder is no way to live. So sorry you had to go through that. Thanks for being brave enough to share your story. ((hugs))S.A. Larsenッhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06241633272588383935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-18327976823619844952014-01-13T14:28:32.577+02:002014-01-13T14:28:32.577+02:00This brought tears to my eyes, Mischa. I was stalk...This brought tears to my eyes, Mischa. I was stalked in university too (hence the inspiration behind my book). It's a common problem in colleges and one too many people ignore. <br /><br />Thanks for the story and the great tips. XOXStinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11415189347501942340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-40746313433746709622014-01-13T14:20:58.555+02:002014-01-13T14:20:58.555+02:00Oh my gosh I can't even imagine how scary this...Oh my gosh I can't even imagine how scary this must have been!! I am so sorry that you had to go through this. Thank you so much for raising awareness though. Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-81538402960343725912014-01-13T14:17:39.000+02:002014-01-13T14:17:39.000+02:00Very good recommendations! I was stalked in colleg...Very good recommendations! I was stalked in college, and it can be a terrifying experience. Connie Kellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10774616533630985219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-21099960707791199402014-01-13T13:31:20.782+02:002014-01-13T13:31:20.782+02:00Scary story. Glad nothing happened. All women (and...Scary story. Glad nothing happened. All women (and men, for that matter) should learn self defense. My young son is taking martial arts. The world can be a dangerous place and you need to be prepared.Sean McLachlanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09778503397743759469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-8474013456492946342014-01-13T12:58:08.818+02:002014-01-13T12:58:08.818+02:00Thank you for sharing, I was stalked for a while b...Thank you for sharing, I was stalked for a while by an abusive ex and it is terrifying. So glad you got through it safe (((hugs)))Josshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07326304210756061011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5190412120537448720.post-41800062453928734992014-01-13T12:51:57.287+02:002014-01-13T12:51:57.287+02:00A really interesting and personable tale, and you ...A really interesting and personable tale, and you are completely right, never feel guilty or like you're overreacting, it's about how a situation impacts you not what they say their intentions are. If you're uncomfortable or offended, report it.sjphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05772883091207430753noreply@blogger.com